Building Self Confidence – Ways To Improve Self Confidence

1 Imagining the worst case scenario

Now this might not seem like such a positive advice to follow, but most of the times, the task that we are so afraid of doing is usually not one that is life threatening. Simply thinking this way can actually help you try what you are afraid of doing.

Perhaps it’s talking to that attractive woman or man at the bar or making that dreaded phone call to a client, or trying for a new career in life. What’s the worst thing that can happen? It’s nothing worth fearing probably. In the vast majority of cases, even if the decision can be life changing, taking action can dissolve any fear and any lack of self confidence that you might have and help you build confidence.

2 Being motivated by regret

I got one more tip for you that is not that positive either! Negative emotions can actually really help give you a kick in the butt to help you get moving. As Steve Jobs famously said in Stanford’s Commencement Address in 2005: “for the past 33 years, I’ve looked in the mirror every morning and asked myself, if today were the last day of my life would I want to do, what I am about to do today?” He later went on to add that if the answer to that question had been no for too many days in a row, then he knew that he had to change something.

The above quote has had a profound effect in my life as I had spent a good amount of my life living inside my comfort zone, living life in a relatively passive state instead of an active one. Don’t be a passive observer of life and take life in your hands or you might be spending a lot of time in the future regretting what might have been. Regret can be a powerful motivator for building self confidence so you can use this method accordingly.

3 Loving yourself

Let’s finish with a tip on building self confidence that is on a more positive note. They say that the world outside is merely a reflection of your inside world. Loving yourself and trusting yourself is vital in building self confidence, because if you don’t love yourself, in the end you won’t feel like you can accept all the good things that life has to offer and you will spend your life living with low self confidence and low self esteem and feeling undeserving of all the great things out there that are available to us all.

Some people feel that loving yourself can be a bad thing because it might sound narcissistic and arrogant but that’s not the case. You need to love yourself first if you want to expect other people to love you. If you spend your life not feeling love for yourself then it will be a tremendous blow to your self confidence because you won’t feel that you are deserving of anything good.